It’s a girl!

It’s a girl!

Birth Announcement
Birth Announcement

The phone rang early on that Sunday morning in the Pratt home in Flint, Michigan with a long-distance call from Saginaw – about 40 miles away.  When Gram answered, Dad simply said, “Happy Mother’s Day”.  Her immediate response was, “What is it?”  “It” was a long, skinny baby girl with dark hair who was soon named Lynnette.

2 or three months old
two or three months old

At 9 pounds, 9 ounces and 21 1/2 inches long, I was big and healthy.  However, during my first months of life, I was plagued with digestion problems and couldn’t tolerate regular formula.  Following  the doctor’s orders, my parents fed me a smorgasbord of concoctions in an attempt to find something that my system could “stomach”.  In the mid 1950’s, commercially produced formula wasn’t widely available – even for babies without stomach problems.  So whatever they tried didn’t come in a can, but was mixed by my mother in her own kitchen and then poured into sterilized glass  bottles that she stored in the refrigerator. That must have been a chore for her.  I have vague memories of Mom mixing formula for my younger siblings using evaporated milk, water and some corn syrup.  Horrors!

On the bassinette - changing table
On the bathinet - changing table

Projectile vomiting was my routine after every feeding, and my parents soon learned to never burp me while I was facing them.  After weeks or maybe months of trial and error during which time my dad regularly carried my stool sample to the hospital for evaluation (talk about a father’s love!), I think they finally found some soy formula that I could handle. After following that regimen for several months, the doctor was still somewhat concerned when I weighed only 17 pounds at 1 year.  However, after a few more months of growth along with solid food I began to put on a little weight and before long was measuring in the “normal” range.  Oh, to be plagued with an inability to gain weight now!

Mom holding me
Mom and me in our classic 50's attire

I was the third child in the family.  David, born 20 September 1951, was not yet three and Yvonne, born 9 September, 1952, was not yet two.  In September of that year when I was about four months old, Dad returned to Michigan State at Lansing to finish his Master’s Degree.  So Mother was left alone (remember this house?) with three little children and no car during the week – Dad came home only on the weekends.

My mother was a strong woman.  Thanks for the great example!

Dear Tom,

Dear Tom,

Tom - Lynnette - Carolyn - Yvonne - Jeff - David  -- 1962
Tom - Lynnette - Carolyn - Yvonne - Jeff - David -- 1962

Happy 51st birthday!

September, 1970
September, 1970

You were just a kid when I left home – a 13 year old pest to be exact!  At that time you were still making dumb and inappropriate comments about and to my friends.  You were still wrestling with Jeff until something or someone got broken.  You were fighting with Mom about cleaning your room.  You were avoiding daily showers.  You were so obnoxiously normal.

High School Senior - 1978
High School Senior - 1978

As you grew up, you became a very likable guy.  (or maybe I’m the one who changed?)  You had a great sense of humor and made me laugh a lot.  You did some great impressions – remember “H-e-l-l-o, B-e-a-r”?   You were a great football player, even though you were part of a couple of heart stopping moments on the field.  You were fun to be around, and my kids thought you were the best.

Tom with son, Brandon - 1983
Tom with son, Brandon - 1983

You handled leukemia with faith and courage.  I learned a lot as I watched you establish priorities knowing that your time on earth was limited.  After doing all you could do to prevent or delay the inevitable, I watched you accept the outcome gracefully.  I have a good memory of our last phone conversation the day before you died.  Who knew the end would come so soon after that?

January 22, 1989
January 22, 1989

Because your life was so short, we haven’t had a chance to be adult friends and siblings.  I’m pretty sure we’d have had a good time together.  But I’m also sure the chance for more good times is in our future.

We still miss you, but we know that you’re in a good place.

I’m thinking of you on this day.  Give my love to Mom.

Love, Lynn

Eighty

Eighty

October 2, 1992
October 2, 1992

Happy Birthday, Mom!

This picture was taken while you were on a mission in Manila.  In the background I see some things that make me think your fellow MTC-ers had a little celebration for you that day.  I’m assuming that Dad came through with the roses for you, even as a missionary.  He’s good that way.  And I’m pretty sure you’ll be getting some red roses today as well.

This year we had a big party for you in August.  Remember – the one you helped plan to celebrate this milestone?  Almost all the family came to the festivities at Reid Ranch.  I think we had 90 rowdy revelers on Monday night.  We reminisced . . . cried. . . laughed a lot . . .  and had a great time.  You taught us how to have a good time.

We remembered you with this DVD created by Todd.  Although it was difficult to see you back in that hospital bed, you looked good, and it was great to hear your voice.  Did you ever imagine that you’d star in your own movie? Some things just take time, I guess!

. . . starring Joyce!
. . . starring Joyce!

We also remembered you with chocolate that Michelle wrapped up as party favors.  Because really, what could have been more appropriate than Hershey’s?  I suppose Godiva or See’s or even Dove might have been tastier, but we had 90 guests to favor.  And most of them were too little to really appreciate good chocolate.  They just melted it into s’mores and ate it as fast as their mothers would allow.  But I think I’ll savor some of the really good stuff today in your honor.

Thoughtful party favors
Thoughtful party favors

This is the second time we’ve recognized your birthday since you’ve been gone.  It’s easier, but we still miss you.  Do you celebrate birthdays in heaven?  I hope you’re having a bang up party today!

Love, Lynnette

Celebrating 60

Celebrating 60

Happy, happy birthday
Happy, happy birthday

It’s no secret that Don has dreamed of a flat screen TV for a long time, but in spite of our shopping, pondering, and analyzing we have never actually made the big purchase.  About every three months, we go to the store and spend a long time looking at a variety of brands, sizes, features and prices.  We compare picture quality and discuss how “it” would look in the family room.  And we always go home empty handed.  After all – our old 27″ Panasonic does just fine.

Since this year was a milestone birthday for Don, with some encouragement from the kids, we (our kids, his mom, and I) decided to surprise him with a new television.  I consulted with my tech savvy children for recommendations on size and brand, and ordered from Costco.com.  I’m not certain how truly surprised he really was, as I think he overheard a couple of my “clandestine” phone calls – when will I learn to speak softly? And it didn’t help that Don personally took the call when Costco called here to schedule delivery – did they not get my explicit instructions to call my cell phone and deliver to Peter’s house?

Willing set up crew
Willing set up crew

We had a three hour window of opportunity when Don left to take his mom to the airport.  Mark and Pete had instructed the delivery guys to load directly into Mark’s car, and as soon as Don left our house, they drove over and we got to work.  The worst part was unloading all the stuff from the entertainment center and then hauling that and the old TV to the garage.

Cluttered chaos as we unloaded the old entertainment center
Cluttered chaos

While I figured out what to do with everything from the previous set up (does anybody need some VCR tapes?) the boys checked out the system and deemed it AWESOME!

You didn't really . . . ?
You didn't really . . . ?

Fox News on the big screen - almost overwhelming!
Fox News on the big screen - a dream come true!

But surprised or not, he loves his new toy!  He told me it was the best birthday gift he’s ever had and that he would have been very disappointed if I hadn’t come through with it.  Talk about pressure after the fact . . .

46" of fun
46" of fun

And yes, a big flat screen television puts TV watching on a whole new level – we love it!

*Take note of the television stand.  It’s my thrift store find dresser after a make over.  More on that later.
You say it’s your birthday?

You say it’s your birthday?

30 years old - 1984
30 years old - 1984

It’s no secret that I love my birthdays.  I don’t mind adding another candle to the cake or getting another 12 months closer to Social Security.  I just love “my” day.  This year was no different, and I had some great plans to celebrate – an extended celebration of sorts.

To properly mark this milestone of 55 years, I set a goal to run a 5K in July. “Everybody” (specifically my young, athletic, in shape, cross country running children) was planning to do it, and I decided I’d get that T-shirt too.  I was excited to get in better shape and maybe even drop a few pounds before the May wedding in San Diego.  This was going to be awesome!

With great enthusiasm and adequate energy, I embarked on the “Couch to 5K” plan I found on the internet.  It seemed to be tailor made for me.  The first few weeks were lots of walking interspersed with short intervals of running.  The transition to mostly jogging with short intervals of walking was gradual and seemed very doable.  Within about 9 weeks I would be running 30 minutes/ 3 miles.

Perfect.

Or maybe not.

Armed with my cell phone for timing (nothing says serious runner like a cellular stop watch), I took to the early morning streets with great determination. Slow and steady I completed the jogging intervals all the while eagerly anticipating the walking segments as a chance to inhale deeply and even out my ragged gasps of breath.  Neither rain nor cold could stop me.  I was a woman on a mission.

As I should have expected, it wasn’t long before I had to acknowledge that a 55 year old body is a little different than a 25 year old one, and perhaps I was not as physically fit as I had imagined.  This was hard work!  But I was determined.  Pete and Emily reassured me with their stories of entering/re-entering the ranks of runners – pain and discouragement were just part of the drill.  People my age run all the time, and I could too.

However, within 3 weeks, reality reared her ugly head, and I was sidelined with knee pain and screaming back muscles. I considered continuing running as the program prescribed using the “no pain – no gain” philosophy.  But truthfully, I had visions of re-injuring my surgically repaired ACL, and I was haunted by memories of hours spent in physical therapy.  So I quickly decided that running through the pain was just dumb and besides – it really hurt.

Boardmans and Butlers at Dell Swearingen's 40th birthday party
Boardmans and Butlers at Dell Swearingen's 40th birthday party - 1985 Invitation said "Come dressed as OLD!"

I was more than a little discouraged and suddenly felt very old.  Was there no place for strenuous exercise in my future?  Would I simply totter my way through the next 25 years?  Was I doomed to working out with old videos of “Sit and Be Fit”?  My big birthday looming on the horizon was beginning to feel more like a solemn memorial to lost youth rather than a celebration of what lies ahead.

At this same time, I started reading a book that Carolyn’s doctor recommended, and  since we are genetic twins, I figured it was good for me too.  And it was.

"You do have to age, but you don't have to rot"
"You do have to age, but you don't have to rot"

The authors advocate that once you reach age 50, you have a new job – exercising vigorously every day for the rest of your life.  They offer 7 rules, but the two that really got my attention are:

1.  Exercise six days a week for the rest of your life

5.  Quit eating crap!

Well, I can do that.  So I revamped my goals.  Instead of running a 5K in July, I changed my focus to keeping the next third of my life as healthy – or even more so – than the first two-thirds.  Vigorous (but not life threatening) exercise coupled with consistency seem to be a much better fit for me than a crash course in running.  Sore muscles the morning following a good workout with weights is far more appealing than crippling back pain.

So now early mornings will find me on the eliptical – outfitted with a heart rate monitor, a taped episode of Oprah, and a water bottle.  As the weather gets nicer I’ll take my workouts outside, maybe to the park where I can increase my agility by stepping around the duck poop that decorates the lake path.

And I’ll be younger next year.

Wishing and hoping. . . .
Wishing and hoping. . . .

They say it’s your birthday –
We’re gonna have a good time.