Not sure whether she wants to know all these people yet, but no one seems to be leaving, so she’s going to make the best of it. –Brian Andreas
How will our children know who they are if they don’t know where they come from? – John Steinbeck, The Grapes of Wrath
Life doesn’t come with an instruction book; that’s why we have fathers. – H. Jackson Brown, Jr.
Cousin to cousin we’ll always be, special friends from the same family tree.
To the outside world we all grow old, but not to brothers and sisters. We know each other as we always were. We know each other’s hearts. We share private family jokes. We remember family feuds and secrets, family griefs and joys. – Clara Ortega
“Sisters” is probably the most competitive relationship within the family, but once sisters are grown, it becomes the strongest relationship. – Margaret Mead
The problem with the gene pool is that there are no lifeguards.
Berrett Family Reunion — Reid Ranch – Fruitland, Utah — August 3-6, 2009
Having a family is like having a bowling alley installed in your brain – Martin Mull
Anticipating the delivery of Don’s birthday TV, and realizing that it would never fit into the old entertainment center, I knew that I had to find some kind of stand for the new Samsung – and fast! Because I had spent plenty on the television itself, I was feeling kind of frugal (actually very cheap), but I knew that laminated pressed board from Wal-Mart was not going to go over well with my consultants (kids and spouses) even though it might fit my budget.
So with Don gone for the day on a Church youth activity, Emily and I set out for the thrift store, hoping the perfect piece would simply present itself. Half price Saturdays at the local Arc are wildly popular with Greeleyites, because let’s face it – 50% off at the thrift store is frugal living at its finest. The store was crowded with bargain hunters, and the checkout lines were long as patient customers waited to purchase jeans, dishes, school clothes – and even lingerie.
But we were two on a mission and (once Emily made peace with the thrift store smell), we made a beeline for the back of the store. Because we weren’t sure what we wanted, we weren’t sure we’d recognize IT when we saw it. Our first look around the furniture department identified a couple of possibilities – not ideal, but worth consideration. But after Emily talked me out of a couple of false positives, and she had gone to check on the kids who were delightedly perusing the toy department, I spotted a piece that I thought had great potential. I couldn’t go find her, because furniture is a hot item on half-price day, and I couldn’t risk somebody else staking a claim on what could be our piece of promise.
Shortly they all returned to check on my progress, and Jack proudly showed me their fabulous find – Don’t Break the Ice” game for $1.00. Emily thoughtfully examined the old dresser I was hovering over, and agreed that it was a great find and would fix up well. And for $25 how wrong could we go?
We decided to go for it, and quickly paid (watching closely that the helpful employee tagged my piece with a SOLD sign), made arrangements to pick it up later and hurried to the car. Emily had just about reached her limit on the Arc ambiance and she passed disinfecting hand wipes all around.
Raw potential
A quick trip in and out of Home Depot yielded sandpaper, primer, black paint and polyurethane finish and we were ready to get to work. Taking confidence from our success with the Great China Hutch Makeover of 2002, Emily and I set up shop in the garage. We sanded, primed, painted and finished and then suggested Don spray paint the drawer pulls – tricky, huh!
The grandkids were cheap labor. It wasn't too hard to get rid of the lovely gold trimmed doors
About three days and several tall tales later (most of which Don probably didn’t believe, but was too polite to challenge) we finished in time for the paint to be dry before the television arrived.
The transformation is complete
Now I wonder if I can do a make over on a couch . . .
For the past 2 1/2 years, Don and I have been attending the Spanish Branch of the Church. We have been welcomed with open arms and warm hearts, and we have really learned to love our Latino friends. Many of these members have lived in the United States for a long time and speak English proficiently. From time to time we realize that culturally we all hold on to “our” ways, but a blend of the two usually means success.
Last Sunday in Relief Society, the President, Guille Bugarin, announced the upcoming Enrichment activity on Thursday afternoon. She showed a couple of projects that would be offered, and fielded questions about what each entailed, what we needed to bring, etc. Because this discussion was in Spanish, I missed a lot, but I could clearly see that we could learn how to crochet edges on dishtowels or do something with a tote bag. I couldn’t follow the discussion well enough to know if we were going to make a bag or decorate one, but since I didn’t want to do that, it didn’t matter. I decided maybe I’d go for some instruction in crochet.
Thursday morning, 8 a.m. – telephone call for me:
Hello
Buenos días, mi amiga. How are you?
I’m muy bien, gracias.
Sister, today at our Enrichment meeting I want to show the sisters how to make a cover for the pills. I have most of the material that I need, but I wonder if you have some small pieces that I can use to finish. I am making one for the boys and one for the girls. Do you have any material in light blue or white?
I’m pretty sure I have some. But what are you making? a cover for the pills?
Yeah, you know – a thing to cover the pills.
The pills?
Yeah, you know – a thing to cover the pills.
At this point I was racking my brain trying to figure out what she was talking about. I’m used to brief lapses in understanding during our conversations, but usually one or the other catches the drift and we continue! However, this time I could not begin to connect what I had seen regarding either the dishtowels or tote bags with “the pills.”
I don’t know what you mean. But in a few minutes I’ll come up to your house and see what you’re doing to make sure I have what you need.
Oh, thank you so much. You can come when you finish your breakfast.
When I got to her house she showed me some fabric that she wanted to make into pillowcases.
Oh, pillowcases! You’re going to teach how to make pillowcases!
Yes. I think the sisters need to learn how to sew and when they see a cute cover like this they will maybe want to make one. And I don’t think it’s too hard.
Oh, no. They aren’t hard to make. That is a good project to start with.
And can you please bring your [sewing] machine?
So we discussed what she needed and I told her I would bring some fabric that would work for the wide hems on the cases. We chatted for a while, she showed me a lot of family pictures, we talked about her kids, and about 45 minutes later I returned home. I went to my fabric stash and found a couple of pieces of fabric that would work to complete the pillowcases.
The meeting was supposed to start at 3 p.m., and Don had assured Guille that he would be at the church to unlock the door. I reminded Don that mis amigas have no concept of starting on time at a somewhat informal meeting as this one is, so I was not planning to go before 3:45.
When he called me from the church at about 3:35, Guille had just arrived and one other sister was there. He said he’d be home to pick me up in about 15 minutes. I had my sewing machine and fabric ready to go.
In that 15 minutes, my “American former Relief Society President” thinking kicked in, and I dashed downstairs to gather a few more things that I realized she might need for a sewing class. If she needed my machine, perhaps a few other tools would be helpful as well. Soon my pile at the door consisted of my cutting mat and rotary blade, several pairs of sewing scissors, iron, and a couple of pieces of coordinating fabric that I thought were big enough to make a pillowcase. In addition I took some banana cake from the freezer and arranged it on a cute plate as my contribution to snacks. When Don pulled in the driveway, we loaded the car and returned to the church.
The sisters had congregated in the multi-purpose room next to the kitchen and were chatting while setting out some food. One sister was setting up her sewing machine, and we discussed where to plug mine in, as I wasn’t sure how she was going to do her instruction. Then Guille turned to me:
So now you will teach us how to make pillowcases?
Wait, I thought you were teaching how to sew . . . I was going to learn to crochet . . . I’m not prepared to teach this class . . Fortunately – or due to divine intervention, because of my conversation with Guille earlier, I had done an internet search and emailed instructions for making a pillowcase to Maddie as a possible beginning sewing project. Sowithout missing a beat I took charge, set up shop, pulled fabric out of my bag and taught the women how to make a pillowcase. None had ever used a rotary cutter, and they were fascinated with the ease and accuracy of that little tool. Marsha had never used a sewing machine, so she sat down at mine and cautiously sewed while her little boys stood at her elbows fascinated with her new skill.
“What would happen if I put my finger in there where that pointy thing (needle) is?”
“Mom, when you get really good will you make it go faster?”
“Tyler, you’re standing on the material so it won’t move!”
By the time the clock struck 6 and it was time to clean up, we had completed 3 pillowcases and had a great meal of tostadas, beans, chicken, salsa, watermelon and cake. It seems that at these functions, food just appears as if by magic – plentiful and delicious! And we’d all had a good time.
Later that evening I realized that I had just taught an Enrichment sewing class with no advance notice, no preparation, no handouts, no centerpieces, no sign up sheets and no stress.
It’s no secret that Don has dreamed of a flat screen TV for a long time, but in spite of our shopping, pondering, and analyzing we have never actually made the big purchase. About every three months, we go to the store and spend a long time looking at a variety of brands, sizes, features and prices. We compare picture quality and discuss how “it” would look in the family room. And we always go home empty handed. After all – our old 27″ Panasonic does just fine.
Since this year was a milestone birthday for Don, with some encouragement from the kids, we (our kids, his mom, and I) decided to surprise him with a new television. I consulted with my tech savvy children for recommendations on size and brand, and ordered from Costco.com. I’m not certain how truly surprised he really was, as I think he overheard a couple of my “clandestine” phone calls –when will I learn to speak softly? And it didn’t help that Don personally took the call when Costco called here to schedule delivery – did they not get my explicit instructions to call my cell phone and deliver to Peter’s house?
Willing set up crew
We had a three hour window of opportunity when Don left to take his mom to the airport. Mark and Pete had instructed the delivery guys to load directly into Mark’s car, and as soon as Don left our house, they drove over and we got to work. The worst part was unloading all the stuff from the entertainment center and then hauling that and the old TV to the garage.
Cluttered chaos
While I figured out what to do with everything from the previous set up (does anybody need some VCR tapes?) the boys checked out the system and deemed it AWESOME!
You didn't really . . . ?
Fox News on the big screen - a dream come true!
But surprised or not, he loves his new toy! He told me it was the best birthday gift he’s ever had and that he would have been very disappointed if I hadn’t come through with it. Talk about pressure after the fact . . .
46" of fun
And yes, a big flat screen television puts TV watching on a whole new level – we love it!
*Take note of the television stand. It’s my thrift store find dresser after a make over. More on that later.
Turning 14 years old was a big deal, because then I was old enough to go to Stake Dances and they were a REALLY BIG deal. The Fort Worth, Texas Stake had a very active youth program and the Stake dances were a big attraction. As newly eligible Mia Maids, my friends and I eagerly anticipated the dances and planned well ahead what we would wear, who we would see, and plotted ways to get a certain dance with a really cute boy – or avoid a dance with a dud.
my invitation to a magical evening
An annual event in the stake was the semi-formal dance at which the First Year Mia Maids (the girls who had turned 14 during the year) made a debut into stake dance society and were formally introduced in a traditional ceremony escorted by their fathers. We felt so important to be spotlighted this way, and we were convinced of our maturity and obvious grace!
Shopping for my dress was great fun. This would be my first formal, and my mom was great about making certain that I felt well dressed. As I recall, we found the dress in a little boutique, and I was pretty sure at first view that it was “my” dress. The formal was white satin with a chiffon overlay embroidered with long stemmed pink roses. The pink ribbon around the waist set off the flowers perfectly and my proper white gloves completed the outfit. When I tried it on, I knew I was a picture of loveliness and couldn’t wait to wear it.
flowers for his lady
This picture is actually a re-enactment of the corsage pinning, staged on Sunday afternoon
When the big day arrived, my dad was the ideal date, showing up with a beautiful corsage of pink baby roses that were perfect with my dress. He looked especially handsome in his dark suit and unlike many of the boys my age, he was taller than I! I was proud to be escorted by such a good looking gentleman.
the presentation rose
I can’t believe I still have this rose – 41 years later well preserved in my “Treasures of Truth” scrapbook.
Lynn Berrett, escorted by her father Mark Berrett
My dad has escorted me through many milestones in my life and has continued to support me through much of the everyday routine. He deserves my respect and admiration – I was occasionally a challenge to him and he kept his cool most of the time. He’s still handsome, he’s still taller than I am, and I’m still proud to be seen with him.
. . . you buy a squirrel trap to use in your back yard.
Each summer we have noticed an increase in the squirrel population in our back yard, and this year we’ve felt like we’re being taken over by the little rodents. Some afternoons our yard looks like the word got out on the squirrel hot line, “Party at the Butler’s,” and every bushy tailed rodent in the neighborhood has stopped by to play. We’ve got nothing against squirrels, but they are damaging the trees, playing in our garden, AND eating our strawberries – a precious commodity.
Since we don’t have dogs to scare them away, and we don’t have guns to eliminate them, Don found a solution at Home Depot and came home with the Havahart squirrel trap.
So simple to bait
Ready for action
Success!
Poor little guy got tricked! And he was not happy about that.
Road to freedom
Don took him for a ride way out in the north country and set him free.
Do you think he can find his way home?
Have you ever heard of a homing squirrel?
Three trapped – probably 5-7 more to go.
But no squirrel stew around here. We’re not that rednecked!
The Butler family social event of the season took place at the Wedding Bowl – a park overlooking the beach in La Jolla.
We had a great view of the ocean from our seats
The weather was NOT wedding day perfect, and as we waited for the ceremony to begin, the clouds, breeze and cool (actually cold) temperatures made us all wish we had classy jackets to match our wedding finery.
The groom - calm and collected
Nathan remained his usual cool self and chatted with the guests after giving Peter some last minute instructions about the music. Pete was more nervous than Nate – certain he would ruin the occasion by messing up the music. But he handled that i-pod like a champ.
The flower girl took her job very seriously
Peter got the music going, and Katie demurely made her way down the ramp scattering the flower petals as she’d been instructed. When she got to the front and still had petals left in the basket, the minister told her to just dump them all out. She dutifully obeyed, so Nikki had a plush cushion of rose petals under [one of] her feet.
A daddy-daughter moment
As Nikki and her dad started down, I found myself looking from Nikki to the waiting Nate and back again. Their grins were contagious! And “Somewhere Over the Rainbow” seemed the perfect background.
I do! I do!
Nikki’s excitement was evident as she bounced and rocked on her heels while they promised to love, honor and respect each other. Nate kept grinning. And we all shared their enthusiasm!
Let the celebration begin
The cakes were as delicious as they were beautiful
The reception dinner was a delicious barbecue catered by Phil’s. The cakes (carrot with cream cheese icing and white with berry filling and white chocolate icing) were the perfect ending.
Mr. & Mrs. Butler
and the dreams that you dare to dream
really do come true.
Spring means planting, and since we’ve discovered the ease of square foot gardening we love digging in the dirt. So in the course of my birthday/Mother’s Day weekend, we made the transformation from neglected winter mess:
We were pretty sure we had some good soil underneath the mess of leaves.
to good soil:
Just a little bit of work brought the soil to life!
to nicely planted garden:
I love the organized look!
Tomatoes, broccoli, peppers, lettuce and more . . .
And then added a little feminine touch:
Maybe it's not too functional, but a cute apron makes any job more fun.
Recently I’ve been missing my mom. All I really wanted for my birthday was to go to North Ogden and put flowers on her grave. Somehow, it seemed fitting to celebrate her on my birthday. But since that wasn’t possible this year, I’ve been savoring some great memories. Mom taught me a lot over the years – some things serious, some things practical and some things just crazy!
So here, in no particular order, are a few of the gems I picked up from her. She didn’t necessarily use these words (except for a few that my siblings will surely recognize), but by her example she tutored me in some of life’s important lessons.
I hope I never forget these Joyce-isms, but honestly – how could I!
Be proud of who you are
Fold the laundry as soon as you take it out of the drier
Celebrate your marriage
Speak up
Love chocolate
Launder the kitchen cloths and towels in a separate load
Be nice to your brothers and sisters
Clean the toilet thoroughly – including the space between the seat and the tank
“Two sets of four” is the hardest phase to get
Don’t treat your friends better than you treat your family
Great shoes can make your outfit – or your day
You can do it willingly or unwillingly – but you WILL do it
Grease and go naked with your hair on fire (her response to any whining about having nothing to wear)
Service in the Church and to the Lord are a key to happiness