Christmas Prelude

Christmas Prelude

Joyce with Lynnette - 8 months old
Joyce with Lynnette - 8 months old

By 7 p.m. on that Saturday night, the hospital room was quiet, dimly lit, and very peaceful.  Dad was napping on the extra bed, and I had pulled a chair close beside Mom’s bed.  Her breathing was slightly labored, but she was resting peacefully and stirred only occasionally.  I knew her time was short, and I wondered how much longer she would be with us.  The lights of the Christmas tree on the table cast a soft glow on the room.  Christmas carols playing from the bedside CD player provided my favorite kind of background music.  I hummed along with “O, Holy Night,” remembering how Mom would often break into song with the Tabernacle Choir at her favorite parts!  How Mother loved Christmas!

I looked at her in the bed, her physical body tired and worn out, and my mind and heart were filled with memories of so many good times.  My mother was one of my best friends, and I felt so grateful for the relationship we shared.  She was strong – yet sentimental, outspoken  – but sensitive, and exacting  – while at the same time gentle.  She had supported and encouraged me throughout my life, even if she did think I was crazy to take up skiing when I was almost 50!  She had given me a lot of guidance – some asked for, some not – and I knew that her passing was going to leave a void.

But more than what we had shared and what all of us would miss, I wondered about her next step.  She was going where none of us had yet been, nor could now.   What was it like to die?  I wasn’t concerned so much about physical pain or discomfort, but particularly curious about the transition from this life to the next.  Where was she going?  How would it feel?  Who would she see?

I picked up a copy of The Book of Mormon that was lying on the bedside table and began to read where the pages fell open:

“Now concerning the state of the soul between death and the resurrection — Behold, it has been made known unto me by an angel, that the spirits of all men, as soon as they are departed from this mortal body, yea, the spirits of all men, whether they be good or evil, are taken home to that God who gave them life.

“And then shall it come to pass, that the spirits of those who are righteous are received into a state of happiness, which is called paradise, a state of rest, a state of peace, where they shall rest from all their troubles and from all care, and sorrow.”
– Alma 40: 11-12

The room seemed sacred, my heart felt peace, and the Christmas carols were as a prelude . . .

This makes me happy!

This makes me happy!

This week I’m looking forward to the whole family being together for Thanksgiving.  Lucy and Sam have brought our grand total to 17 which is a lot of bodies in this house! That also means a lot of card playing, football watching, loud laughing . . . and a lot of rolls for Thanksgiving dinner, and we’re excited!

What are you thankful for?

I’m thankful for all 17 noisy family members!

Enjoy the holiday

My Gram

My Gram

February, 1966
February, 1966

Alpha Madalene Roberts Pratt
November 10, 1906 – August 14, 1975

It was a late summer evening in Flint, Michigan, and already dark as Mom and I got in the car for a last minute trip to the store for diapers.  It had been a long and exhausting day, and my emotions were extremely fragile.  As Mom pulled out onto the very familiar road in front of Gram and Pop’s house, we began to talk about the day’s activities.  Suddenly I couldn’t cope with the inevitable, and I began to sob.  “But I don’t want her to die.  What will we do without her?  My children will never know my Gram.”  My adored Gram was dying.  She was losing her battle against cancer, and her life was quickly slipping away.  My sense of loss was overwhelming.

That August of 1975 I was a young mother, just 21 years old.  I was delighted to have a darling baby daughter and anxious to show her off to my extended family.  Unfortunately, this reunion had come as a result of very difficult circumstances.  My Grandmother Pratt was dying of cancer.  Knowing that her time was very short, Yvonne and I had taken our new babies – Matthew and Emily – for a visit.  We had been to the hospital that day to introduce these newest descendants to their great-grandmother.  She was very weak, but had been able to hold each of the babies for a short time.  Although she was thrilled at meeting the youngest members of the family, it was probably more important to me for Gram to see my baby, than it was to her.  Gram had played a very important part in my life, and my growing up was full of wonderful memories of Gram and Poppie.  Because Emily was only three months old, I hadn’t had time to emotionally put my mother in the grandmother role.  The grandmother in our family was Gram, and I was devastated to think that my children were going to grow up without her.  How would they have special grandparent memories?

May, 1972
May, 1972

l-r:  Pop – Lynnette – Gram – Michelle – Mom – Dad – Carolyn

Gram and Pop with grandchildren - 1963
Gram and Pop with grandchildren - 1963

Back:  Yvonne – Mike (Peterson) – Gram – Carolyn
Middle:  Tom – Poppie – Bryan – Greg (Burgess)
Front:  David – Mark (Peterson) – Jeff – Lynnette

Yvonne - Lynnette (behind doll) - Gram
Lynnette - Yvonne (behind doll) - Gram -- Christmas 1955

Gram died shortly after that trip to Michigan, and none of my children know her except through pictures and stories.  But they haven’t missed out on grandparent time.  They know “Gram” as my mother, and their lives have been enriched by happy experiences with all of their grandparents.  Now it’s my turn to create happy grandmother memories with the next generation – and I gladly accept!

Thanks for all the wonderful memories, Gram.

I hope that I can be the kind of grandmother you were.

Happy 103!


Eighty

Eighty

October 2, 1992
October 2, 1992

Happy Birthday, Mom!

This picture was taken while you were on a mission in Manila.  In the background I see some things that make me think your fellow MTC-ers had a little celebration for you that day.  I’m assuming that Dad came through with the roses for you, even as a missionary.  He’s good that way.  And I’m pretty sure you’ll be getting some red roses today as well.

This year we had a big party for you in August.  Remember – the one you helped plan to celebrate this milestone?  Almost all the family came to the festivities at Reid Ranch.  I think we had 90 rowdy revelers on Monday night.  We reminisced . . . cried. . . laughed a lot . . .  and had a great time.  You taught us how to have a good time.

We remembered you with this DVD created by Todd.  Although it was difficult to see you back in that hospital bed, you looked good, and it was great to hear your voice.  Did you ever imagine that you’d star in your own movie? Some things just take time, I guess!

. . . starring Joyce!
. . . starring Joyce!

We also remembered you with chocolate that Michelle wrapped up as party favors.  Because really, what could have been more appropriate than Hershey’s?  I suppose Godiva or See’s or even Dove might have been tastier, but we had 90 guests to favor.  And most of them were too little to really appreciate good chocolate.  They just melted it into s’mores and ate it as fast as their mothers would allow.  But I think I’ll savor some of the really good stuff today in your honor.

Thoughtful party favors
Thoughtful party favors

This is the second time we’ve recognized your birthday since you’ve been gone.  It’s easier, but we still miss you.  Do you celebrate birthdays in heaven?  I hope you’re having a bang up party today!

Love, Lynnette

It’s all relative

It’s all relative

Not sure whether she wants to know all these people yet, but no one seems to be leaving, so she’s going to make the best of it. –Brian Andreas

group chaos

chaos 2

campfire -kate

How will our children know who they are if they don’t know where they come from? – John Steinbeck, The Grapes of Wrath

Steph, Nate, dad

group meeting

Life doesn’t come with an instruction book; that’s why we have fathers. – H. Jackson Brown, Jr.

MIchelle & Dad

Cousin to cousin we’ll always be, special friends from the same family tree.

justin, kids,ryan

campfire

cousins

sno cone cousins

To the outside world we all grow old, but not to brothers and sisters. We know each other as we always were. We know each other’s hearts. We share private family jokes. We remember family feuds and secrets, family griefs and joys.  – Clara Ortega

campfire 3

card game

Jennifer, Brandon, Bryson

lizz & kids

“Sisters” is probably the most competitive relationship within the family, but once sisters are grown, it becomes the strongest relationship. – Margaret Mead

carolyn, michelle

eliz & becca

The problem with the gene pool is that there are no lifeguards.

game

game 4

crazy game

group from loft

Berrett Family Reunion — Reid Ranch – Fruitland, Utah — August 3-6, 2009


Having a family is like having a bowling alley installed in your brain – Martin Mull

Somewhere over the rainbow

Somewhere over the rainbow

May 28, 2009

Anticipation
Anticipation

The Butler family social event of the season took place at the Wedding Bowl – a park overlooking the beach in La Jolla.

We had a great view of the ocean from our seats
We had a great view of the ocean from our seats

The weather was NOT wedding day perfect, and as we waited for the ceremony to begin, the clouds, breeze and cool (actually cold) temperatures made us all wish we had classy jackets to match our wedding finery.

The groom - cool and collected
The groom - calm and collected

Nathan remained his usual cool self and chatted with the guests after giving Peter some last minute instructions about the music.  Pete was more nervous than Nate – certain he would ruin the occasion by messing up the music.  But he handled that i-pod like a champ.

Katie took her job very seriously
The flower girl took her job very seriously

Peter got the music going, and Katie demurely made her way down the ramp scattering the flower petals as she’d been instructed.  When she got to the front and still had petals left in the basket, the minister told her to just dump them all out.  She dutifully obeyed, so Nikki had a plush cushion of rose petals under [one of] her feet.

A daddy-daughter moment
A daddy-daughter moment

As Nikki and her dad started down, I found myself looking from Nikki to the waiting Nate and back again.  Their grins were contagious!  And “Somewhere Over the Rainbow” seemed the perfect background.

I do!
I do! I do!

Nikki’s excitement was evident as she bounced and rocked on her heels while they promised to love, honor and respect each other.  Nate kept grinning.  And we all shared their enthusiasm!

Let the celebration begin!
Let the celebration begin

They were as delicious as they were beautiful
The cakes were as delicious as they were beautiful

The reception dinner was a delicious barbecue catered by Phil’s.  The cakes (carrot with cream cheese icing and white with berry filling and white chocolate icing) were the perfect ending.

Mr. & Mrs. Butler
Mr. & Mrs. Butler

and the dreams that you dare to dream
really do come true.

Dig it!

Dig it!

Spring means planting, and since we’ve discovered the ease of square foot gardening we love digging in the dirt.  So in the course of my birthday/Mother’s Day weekend, we made the transformation from neglected winter mess:

We were pretty sure we had some good soil underneath the mess of leaves.
We were pretty sure we had some good soil underneath the mess of leaves.

to good soil:

Just a little bit of work brought the soil to life!
Just a little bit of work brought the soil to life!

to nicely planted garden:

I love the organized look!
I love the organized look!

Productive day
Tomatoes, broccoli, peppers, lettuce and more . . .

And then added a little feminine touch:

Maybe it's not too functional, but a cute apron makes any job more fun.
Maybe it's not too functional, but a cute apron makes any job more fun.

Garden, sweet garden.